The Ceremony

This should be the most important part of the wedding... and yet... I just can't get myself to commit to it.  Not that I'm not ready to commit to the marriage... that sounded all wrong.  I just mean that I had an idea of what my wedding would be like and it's not going to be.

When I was young, I remember Christmas Eve mass at St. Mary's.  It was a children's mass and the priest really brought the story to life.  When I got older, the church had a new meaning to me... but not until it was gone.  In 1993, the church that my parents were married in and the church where I was baptized, was stuck by lightning and burned down.  I was 10 at the time, but I remember watching it on the news.  The church was rebuilt, and although it is still a beautiful church, it does not have the same character and beauty as the old one.

I'm not sure when it was that the sentiment of St. Mary's hit me... but at some point in my life, I decided that I wanted to get married at St. Mary's.  Well, as we started the wedding planning, we talked to the church and it was going to run us about $1,000 to get married at the church.  There were also a lot of rules that came along with the church regarding the ceremony and those involved.

SO, back to the point... we are now doing a non-denominational ceremony in the courtyard outside our banquet hall.  The lady performing the ceremony is very nice and I'm sure that J and I can make our ceremony very personal and basically make it whatever we'd like it to be... but not really.  It's not going to be the same as what I thought.  So, the point of all of this... I'm having a hard time getting myself excited about working on our ceremony... the wording, the format, the specific verses/prayers/readings, etc.

We do have some exercises to do that our reverend sent to us so hopefully that will get me more excited about working on the ceremony stuff.  More to come...